Remember that being available or unavailable has nothing to do with love, it is all about conditioning and a choice to continue to be unavailable or to change it.
That choice can be As a life coach and recovering “emotionally unavailable person” myself, I see this pattern so often and what lies under it is the fear of rejection, hurt, and not being good enough.
One of life’s interesting phenomenon is that we often reject the very thing we seek.
So the most distant and emotionally unavailable people desperately want to be available and feel that connection, but the fear and learned coping strategies get in the way.
You were born with it, then life happened, and you developed coping strategies.
The only person who can change this is the person who is presently unavailable.
It is at the start very uncomfortable, awkward and even alien to someone who wasn’t taught how to be available emotionally growing up.
What we have to accept is that no one can lead you to emotional availability not even someone you are truly in love with.It is not about oversharing or being dramatic for the sake of it, it is sharing what is relevant to develop that connection in an authentic way.It is about knowing the personal behaviors that avoid true openness and availability.about sharing his emotions; it is about his openness with another person and himself.It’s about where he is at in this moment emotionally and staying with that discomfort, instead of running or presenting it as fixed, resolved or all sorted out.When we move into a more authentic and available space, we This can be romantic or simply friendship, someone who doesn’t recognize the impact they’ve had on the demise of a friendship or relationship, isn’t really being open and available.