But Malcolm was totally oblivious to the attention.
When I pointed this out to Malcolm, he shrugged and said, They are not big enough. Now you might be scratching your head, asking yourself, why is Malcolm looking for big guys in a bathhouse Well think about it.
Some men who go to the baths are there to look for a specific type of guy that isn't normally found in a bar, or a restaurant, or even in the personals. He is blond, has blue eyes, broad shoulders, tall with a firm muscular body.
Sometimes you have to go to the baths to seek the man that fits your ideal type. A grade school teacher by day, at night he searches for his ideal guy that he wants to spend the rest of his life with.
The gay community is (and I do not care what part of the country you are in) more or less 99.9% superficial.
You are accepted or rejected as a person based on your overall appearance.
In short, your looks determine your overall popularity. Going to a club or a bar, Chubs cannot help but feel invisible, like they don't even exist. They have been hurt so many times by the constant rejection from the gay community.
If you look like a supermodel, you have no problems being accepted. A line in the movie, Broken Hearts Club said it perfectly; "This is a community filled with 10s, on the prowl for an 11. It has become so disheartening that many Chubs retreat further and further into their house.
Every group is there, all interacting amongst each other.
Each and every time I visit the baths there are at least one or two Chubs walking the hallways at any given time.
Why put up with that rejection night after night But bathhouses are different.
As I have mentioned, the baths is the only gay environment where you can see a cross-section of the gay community.
And although rejection is part of the territory at the baths, a lot of these Chubs feel safe in that atmosphere.