That is, a first date is more likely to turn into something serious if you did NOT meet online. So unlike online shopping for goods that can be described in terms of certain concrete attributes (like washing machines, hair-dryers, or bookshelves), “clicking” with people romantically in person is more like realizing that certain beer or soup taste better than others. Schwartz’s conclusion was that while increasing choice is generally good, having too much choice leads to less satisfaction with the choices we made and less happiness overall.
That might explain why the apparent explosion of romantic choices with online dating have not brought about more dating satisfaction, higher marriage rates, etc.
Online dating, including app dating, has become commonplace.
Most of people who have found themselves single in the past 15 years or so have, at some point, been tempted by the promise of finding a love of their life among seemingly limitless choices of possible matches. Well, if you count the number of first dates people go on, the answer is yes.
If you count the amount of short-term dating people get to do, the answer is still yes. There are no reliable surveys to tell us what percentage of people who date online find their mates there.
Duke professor of psychology and economics, Dan Ariely, conducted some very creative studies of online dating.
He found that, on average, online daters spend six hours online for one in-person coffee.
In other words, believing that there is limitless choice of potential mates just waiting to be discovered online, makes us more picky, less satisfied with a person we choose and less likely to commit to a partner.
So, we are all playing one big game of musical chairs – with little payoff.By Todd Schoepflin I haven’t thought about dating in a while.But when you count the number of lasting, committed relationships and marriages initiated online, that’s when things get little tricky. And there is no valid research related to whether type or duration of online dating is related to the outcome. Barry Schwartz wrote about how and why we make choices we do.What we do know is that initial connections made in “real life” have higher chance of working out than those initiated online. A recent study by Eastwick and Hunt published in a prestigious Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, revealed that people can look very good “on paper,” based on their pictures and profile information (i.e. The problems is that that “good on paper” doesn’t translate well into liking someone in person, especially as you spend more time with the potential mate. The book was based on years of his and other scientists’ research.So, single people tend to spend a lot of time searching and reading through profiles, “liking” and “winking”, writing and replying to messages – with very little in return.That seems like a very inefficient and unsatisfying way to find a partner. Maybe the bottom line is: try to meet people in real life if you can, and date online as an additional option (but without high expectations!