I try to open discussions with “I/we want to have you at home more.I miss time with you”, but it immediately goes to accusations that I don’t understand his work, his stress, the economy etc.
The kids and I staged an intervention (literally) where we said that they would not ride in his car with him if he continued to text and check emails while driving (that has improved a bit since then). I do, but it has left me to be virtually a single parent, and in fact, an angry, disconnected wife.
” instead of calling him on his out of balance life.
I have considered talking to an elder couple that we are close to in order to have someone else discuss this with him.
My husband is a good man and I know, in my head if not my heart, that he loves me and his kids, but even as I write this, a voice in my head whispers, “but not enough to cut back his work hours”. She IS married to a workaholic husband, and it’s making her feel so unloved. Here are some general thoughts about workaholism and marriage.
My husband is a physician, and when he was in training he was often at work for 100-120 hours a week, being 36 hours on and 12 hours off. When he had his own practice he was still on call frequently, and his work weeks were still long.
I am tired of pat Christian answers about making my home a sanctuary for him and understanding that work is what God created him to do.
I am angry when I hear other Godly men ask with a laugh, “Still working those crazy hours?
He owns his own business and regularly works 75-90 hours a week.
We have been married almost 30 years and our kids are almost out of the nest.