And Los Angeles lacks an urban center where young, single people congregate—they live everywhere. I receive thousands of emails a year from women all over the world, and they all seem to agree on one thing: dating is hard. In New York or Los Angeles, the high proportion of singles can feel overwhelming. C., it’s intimate – these people bump into each other on the metro, caffeinate at the same cafes, and unwind at the same bars, week in and week out. A.: It looked like skeletal Asian models pair-bonding with balding producers over low-calorie cocktails.” Guess what? Regarding New York: If New York is too big, Los Angeles is too wide.
After once making a 45-minute trek to meet a guy in Queens, then back to my Manhattan apartment at 1 a.m., only to get dumped like, three days later, I never again felt like traveling out of my way for a guy.
However, in a small town, with limited population, it seems like I might have to be open to the possibility of dating in neighboring towns.
C., author Amanda Hess decided to move to Los Angeles in hopes of finding a better dating scene. Are you blaming your town for your dating troubles? I live in DC and I agree with this line from the article “One friend in D. told me that the scene can be so claustrophobic that dating online means weeding through a selection of coworkers, friends, and friends’ exes.” The network in DC is so small it can feel incestuous at times.
She was under the impression that Los Angeles is one of America’s “Best Cities for Singles.” “But between dark basement beers during my last month in Washington,” she writes, “my friends presented me a phantasmagoria of single life in L. In Chicago, Charlotte, Des Moines, Boise, and Seattle. I always joke when you break up with someone in DC, it better me amicable, b/c you will see your ex again.
But now that I've temporarily moved back to my hometown, I'm looking back on love in the city with the faintest of rose-colored glasses.
Small-town dating is presenting a whole slew of new challenges, such as: Overcoming laziness: In New York, I hated even dating out of borough.I'll admit that I've called my parents to pick me up from a bar before, but that would make for a pretty awkward goodnight kiss.At least on the subway I could read a book, but on the other hand, a car won't ruin my hair the way a sweltering subway stop always did. Obviously, I'd never advocate getting wasted on a date.But I enjoy a little social lubrication to overcome nerves on a first date. At first, it seemed like such huge plus that the average drink in my town is about , until I realized, with no mass transit or cabs…how do I get home safely?During my seven years living in New York City I reached the same conclusion as pretty much every other city girl I ever consulted on the subject: Dating in NYC is the WORST.The dating scene is as competitive as the real estate market (if you aren't familiar, I'd describe both as just shy of a bloodbath).