Our work to understand ourselves can be undermined or become convoluted if our efforts are distracted by a budding romance.
In other words, it is recommended that someone not date during their first year of recovery.
Because there is a lot of resistance to this guideline and the results from dating can be detrimental to one’s sobriety, let’s look at some of the important reasons WHY dating during the first year of recovery is not advised.
You can truly only love someone to the extent that you love yourself.
It can come as a surprise when you’re dating someone who reveals that he’s a recovering drug addict.
It goes without saying that he probably led a lifestyle that seems vastly different from the one he’s living with you.
While some people can easily relate to and embrace the fact that everyone has a past, others can find it hard to reconcile the two.
If you’ve decided to move forward with the relationship, here are some dos and don’ts that will make dating someone in recovery a lot easier for both of you.
The focus of early recovery should be laying a strong foundation for long-term sobriety and this involves searching deep within ourselves.
Personal reflection and self-analysis is an important step to knowing ourselves and learning to accept and love ourselves.