“When looking for friends of any gender, we tend to gravitate towards others with similar characteristics and interests of our own.Commonality and chemistry between individuals is important when developing friendships,” Dr.
We’ve all seen this classic TV/movie trope play out on the screen: guy meets girl, guy and girl become best friends, guy develops secret crush on girl, girl gets boyfriend, guy becomes jealous and confesses his feelings, and, finally, girl realizes she’s been in love with guy all along.
This prototypical romance is the hallmark of shows like .
Participants who reported no physical or sexual attraction to their friend were in significantly longer friendships compared to those who felt an attraction.
Males and females have been living, working, and playing side-by-side since a young age, making it inevitable that they interact with one another.
At school, we start to form our own gender groups where we take an interest in those who act like we do.
It is during puberty that boys and girls start to see each other as potential dating partners (circa awkward sixth grade school dances) because they don’t really know one another as friends.
However, when placed in these social contexts, the sexes learn to understand and communicate with each other.
Hollywood has shamelessly exploited the idea of guy-girl friendships evolving into romantic interests, priming us to believe this is how all opposite-sex dynamics work.
But, can guy-girl friendships work platonically, or is the old adage “friends make the best lovers” true?
Ildiko Tabori, a clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, Calif., told Similarly, these are the qualities we look for in a significant other. A friendship attraction, or connection devoid lust is a bona fide bond, and science suggests it does exist.
A study published in the found bonds between men and women are changing, with both men and women in cross-sex friendships more often seeing each other as friends or confidants rather than romantic interests.