As a result, the loss is often experienced as trauma.As expected, women initiating divorce ultimately identify their spouse as the “true” initiator.
Because women typically grieve relationships before end, they feel relief, experience less stress, and adjustment better after than men.
No matter how enlightened we are as a culture, it is still uncommon for men to be the primary caregivers, and women the financial provider.
Despite the security and sense of identity traditional marriages provide, they enable men to neglect the particular areas of personal growth that separation and divorce forced them to face.
Additionally, are less likely to isolate, and seek support and companionship with friends or family.
Apart from career, a man’s partner is typically his most vital relationship.
by Larry O'Connor, MFT Men’s Challenges with Separation and Divorce “Women grieve the loss of a relationship before ending it, men grieve it after it has ended,” may say it best.
Statistically, 65-70% of divorces are filed by women (90% in college-educated couples).
But much of this too is to avoid the complex array of losses and challenges divorce presents a man.
Many of these losses though, are a result men’s typical, if not default, role within marriage of being the financial provider.
The majority immediately scramble to salvage their marriages, citing family or finances, prepared to agree to anything to keep their world in tact.
Often this is in reaction to the shock, and not being prepared.