Truth-telling and trust go hand in hand, but trust is also bolstered in other ways.
He’s determined who is number one in the relationship—and it isn’t him.
Five Qualities That Show He’s the Real Deal Melissa had been dating Wes for a year and a half when she realized it was time to make a decision about their future together. “You aren’t getting any younger, you know.” “You don’t need to remind me,” said Melissa, who had just turned 35.
Actually, it was her older sister, Sandy, who pressed her on the issue over lattes one morning. “And, yes, Wes has been dropping hints about tying the knot.
” She explained that she’d recently heard the term “meantime guy”—which is a man to hang out with for fun and companionship while waiting for someone else to settle down with permanently. He tells the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
That conversation stopped Melissa’s galloping thoughts in their tracks. If you catch a whiff of dishonesty in the air, look out!
It forced her to ponder the question: What exactly constitutes a man who is marriage material? And if you aren’t at this present moment, chances are you will sometime in the future. A man’s need to lie is a telling clue about his character and emotional health.There are lots of ways to answer that question, but let us suggest five indispensible qualities of a man worth marrying: He has made Aretha Franklin’s tune “R. It may indicate serious insecurity, lack of integrity, or flimsy moral standards.And if deceit shows up while dating, it’s likely to get worse during marriage.But here’s the good news: a man who consistently tells the truth is a man who doesn’t have anything to hide. He knows trust is as fragile as crystal and he wouldn’t even think of breaking it.But it’s such a huge decision—something inside me is holding back.” Sandy arched an eyebrow. He respects himself and he respects you—completely.“The real question is this: Is Wes ‘marriage material’ or is he a ‘meantime guy’ until you find the real deal? The fact is, you can’t maintain a happy, long-term relationship with someone you don’t respect and/or who doesn’t respect you. It is an essential ingredient for any lasting, flourishing relationship.