Take a few days or a few hours to reflect on things. Spend more time on your work, finding a new job if you hate your current one, become ambitious again!\n We've all been there: You meet someone online, via Tinder, or approach a dude at a bar."I call this 'pseudo intimacy,'" says Marni Battista, dating and relationship expert and founder of Datingwith
Digital diarrhea of the mouth via text ensues for days, maybe even a week until seeing him again on your offish first date.
During your mutual overshare over text/Facebook/Instagram, you learn too much about him—his work, friends, families, dog, taco preferences, favorite shows. You realize you want absolutely nothing, zero, zip, to do with him.
He's texting you just to say, "good night;" lavishing you with compliments. In some cases, you might even hope to Jesus that you never f*cking see him again.
There's only one problem: He wants to keep seeing you.
But your vision of what they are isn't even close to what the person actually is." This is how you might find yourself, like I did, having to break up with someone you're not even dating.
Occasionally you’ll get the “I hate him,” or “I told you so,” all things you don’t want to hear. While you’re at it, unfollow all those other people who make you want to run murderously out into the middle of the street for their political posts.
You can try talking to your friends about it, but they’ve been hearing this for months and they’ve been telling you to move on for just as long. He won’t know and no one wants to see all the great things he’s been up to without you. There’s no better way to realize how many times you’ve made the same mistake than by writing it down daily. Plus if they’re single, they’ll be on the prowl too. Tip: This can be done after the sulking because you need those excess blankets and pillows lying around for ultimate comfort.
Escape into someone else’s problems or, better yet, read a nonfiction book that will make you realize how insignificant your current situation is in the grand scheme of things – proceed with caution on this one, you could end up wanting to go to graduate school for journalism. When your mind is focusing on something else you’ll forget about him. However, having a couple of drinks with good friends will allow you to let loose and start talking to that cute guy sitting a few seats away. Living in a clean environment with clear your mind of clutter.
It sucks, but in after a couple seasons of Parks and Recreation you’ll be yearning for your own Ben Wyatt. It’s easy to settle when you’re attention is on on someone else. Try not to get too drunk – we’ve all seen or been in one of those alcohol-induced crying fits. Do your laundry, vacuum, put away your Christmas decorations.
So, you’ve gone on a few dates, you’ve been off and on for months, you sleep over, but you keep waiting for him to define the relationship. Even after all your conversations about where this is going, all you get in return is “don’t pressure me,” “I don’t know,” and the best, “we’re taking it slow.” Coming to this realization takes a while, unless you have fabulously honest friends.
Take a boxing class, volunteer, sing karaoke, buy a vibrator – do something! Plus no one gives you sympathy like in a breakup because “you guys were never dating.” You were dating. Doesn’t mean you cared less than you would have with a title.