We choose the best man we believe we are worthy of. But if we keep that story in our heads…then we are simply avoiding facing the fake stories we tell ourselves and other possible realities.
It was that there was no room to be in a relationship with me.
They had no perceived positive rewards for their efforts to court me, because I put out a tonne of masculine energy.
One can’t get clarity when they are feeling sorry for themselves. I was actually totally clueless, because it was none of that. Polarity happens when there is opposite energies, it didn’t have to be that way, it is just how it is in our universe.
(Click here to get your Goddess Report)On this particular night, one nice young man did come up to me and introduce himself. Looking back, i now realise that it wasn’t that men were intimidated and THAT is why they didn’t or couldn’t be in a relationship with me.
Ok.’ From that day on, I noticed that whenever I told men this, this particular reaction was not uncommon at all. Heh, Finally, I feel some sort of power in my life – I’m doing a LAW degree and you can’t compare to that!
As Jada Pinkett says; ‘no woman wants a man other women don’t want’.
In other words, women go for the man with the most status they feel they can get.
(Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”)Achievements for appeal in a commitment relationships are for men; men compete with each other to achieve more and therefore gain more status.
Because we all secretly know unconsciously that women trade up and compare men all the time.
It was that I walked around, living my life from this place of thinking that my worth came from being career minded and successful. And yet – it pushed the better men away, because I didn’t need their direction.
And that became a habit; so much so that when i spoke to men, my body was tight, I wasn’t trusting, I was fully set on directing my own life. I wasn’t soft, I was hard and trying to just be enough.
I bought in to the false idea that ‘men commit to women who are better; women who are achievers’ – which leads to the reality that; As women, our appeal to men in a relationship has nothing to do with how much we achieve; it has everything to do with our soul; and our heart as a woman.
It has everything to do with how kind, loyal and feminine we show up.