Mary’s College of Maryland Teaching Specialty: Psychology , Psychopathology Susan Futeral, Ph.
That said, there’s no such thing as a perfect spouse, with of course the notable exception of my lovely wife, who I’m sure will be reading this article (Hi baby….um, I’ll get started on that load of laundry right away! Following are a list of difficulties foreign men have had in blending their own customs and traditions with those of their Japanese brides.
A common complaint from foreign men is a lack of overt affection from their Japanese wives.
Of course, raising them brings with it its own issues.
▼ Because early child education starts in the home, and it starts with cyclone spin kicks. It can be particularly difficult convincing your spouse that something you’ve always had is a necessity when she’s gone her whole life without it, such as the men whose wives criticized their wasteful desires for fluffy, machine-dried laundry and the convenience of an automated sprinkler system.
Home-use clothes dryers were extremely uncommon in Japan until the last 10 years or so, and automated sprinklers for private dwellings are still unheard of.
It’s well known that Japanese are less likely to utter the phrase “I love you” than their native English-speaking counterparts, but the lack of validation can seem all the more distressing when your wife has no problem showing her devotion to someone she’s only seen on stage holding a microphone.▼ We’re guessing a little of the sting is taken out if Johnny happens to be your name, too, though.As its society becomes more and more internationalized, a growing number of Japan’s citizens are choosing a spouse from another country.It’s not hard to see why, as an interracial relationship can be the deepest and most rewarding form of cultural exchange.It’s not just verbal affirmation some men hope for more of, either.Like most of Asia, Japan has very different standards about casual physical contact from many Western cultures, and one person’s casual flirting can be another’s violation of personal boundaries. Still, at least some compatibility on this issue is a prerequisite for most marriages, and plenty of international couples are cozy enough to produce offspring.