It’s embarrassing to talk about a ‘lifestyle.’ It’s not easy to imagine having a minivan overflowing with car seats or to rethink the vasectomy. It’s difficult for many – especially if they are coming from a more liturgical form of Protestantism. It’s painful to allow your divorce and re-marriage to be examined by the bishop’s tribunal.
You can’t run away from prickly conversations – for long.
If anything, marriage accentuates the mild differences you have while dating. This is the time to face difficult conversations and make sure you are on the same page.
That’s a much better use of their time than drinking expensive coffee with me. Altar boys turning on a dime and making a 90 degree right angle around the altar. If you’re a potential convert, pray for and seek out a good priest with whom you can speak confidentially.
#8 Liturgy I am beginning to think that there is nothing as controversial in the Catholic Church as liturgy. I’ll also add from personal experience, the healing a good confession is about 100 times more powerful than any of the shame or fear associated with past problems. (Please leave a comment below to testify to this reality so others might be assured.) #6 Financial discomforts If you’re a clergyman you stand to lose your great pension, great health benefits, discretionary fund, and your salary. It’s likely that you haven’t been trained to do anything else that is marketable.
As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily. Just about anything that is, except ugly disagreements.
It doesn’t change much in marriage except there are more things to disagree about.I have spoken to somewhere between 50-100 Protestant ministers who have become Catholic or are contemplating entry into full communion with the Catholic Church. #10 Theological Submission It’s difficult to say serviam (“I will serve”). A Protestant has the experience of a minister smiling whenever he sees you, memorizing your name, and generally going out of his way to make a personal connection. Hence, the minister is much more likely to say, “Hey, let’s go to Starbucks this week and talk about your faith.” Of course, I know dozens of Catholic priests who do reach out on a personal level, but for the most part, Catholic priests are stretched out more thinly. And to be honest, I’m glad to know that my priests are hearing confessions and going to the hospital all the time. All this is understandable and I think that these things should be addressed with caution and compassion. Still, it is difficult to tell oneself: “I don’t fully understand the Treasury of Merit, but I will submit my reason to the reason of the Church.” #9 Priests Catholic priests are not like Protestant ministers. For some, they have to revisit an abortion that occurred decades ago. Sometimes, potential converts walk in to a not-so-wonderful liturgy with broken rubrics and oddities. My suggested solution is the “Great Catholic Migration of the 21th Century.” Click here to read more about “the great migration.” #7 Dealing with marriage, divorce, homosexuality, contraception, abortion Some people have irregular marriages, live homosexual lifestyles, or enjoy the comforts of contraception.A marriage preparation program will help you to address these issues more thoroughly. Perhaps it’s a sign you need to consult others with experience or expertise in the area. I don’t often disclose personal thoughts on this blog, but I feel that this is something that might be helpful for folks on both sides of the Tiber: Ten Reasons why it’s hard to become Catholic. Over the last several years, I’ve gathered up the “big ten” that either cause pain or lead to a man saying “No thanks,” to the Catholic Church. Relatively speaking, they are more distant than Protestant clergy, albeit for good reasons sometimes. I wish that I were greeted and hailed by the pastor after Mass. Protestant ministers usually have smaller congregations and more competition with one another. These sort of things cut deep to the heart and make us squirm.