I told him how it really upset me and how disrespectful I found it, especially as it was a dating website.
He responded with saying that although he didn’t see anything wrong in it “it’s nothing”, he could see that it had upset me and so when I asked him to delete it, he went ahead and deleted his account.
I was wondering if you could help me with something that has been playing on my mind recently…
I told him that I found this a bit weird that he is going on a dating website to look at other girls, when supposedly he is in a relationship with me.
He said that he didn’t see anything wrong in it and it meant nothing.
He said that he only looks at it to use the function where he can look through it and he can click on “yes” or “no” (i.e. He says that he always clicks on “no” even if they’re good looking.
He reassured me that he was not going on there to look for girls, but just to look at their pictures.
I feel really confused though, as he told me that he used to do this (“yes” or “no” thing on the dating website) before we started a relationship almost just to fill the time I guess.
He also told me that the reason he’s started doing it again recently was because he’s bored whilst he’s staying in hotels.
I also asked if anyone has contacted him on the website since he’s been going out with me and he said that a couple of girls have but he hasn’t replied to them (he also let me see the messages).
I know he is committed, as he tells me that he wants to be with me and although he looks at other girls, including girls on a dating site, he tells me has “chosen” to be with me.
I found this out after he started to write something in a search engine on his laptop when I was sitting next to him, which brought up his history in the search bar and I asked “do you still look at …(dating website)”.
At first, he replied that he has a couple of times, and then when I was unsure whether he was being honest, I asked again and he then said a couple of times a week.
The thing is that it’s now really niggling at me and I feel like he’s broken my trust.