"You need to think clearly before making the leap, as the moments before a big decision are often the most daunting.So consider carefully what you want from moving in, decide what you expect from each other, face your 'worst fantasies' and 'deal-breakers'.
You think that you're good together; you spend all of your time together anyway so what's the problem?
We asked Relationship expert Susan Quilliam who is working on Halls XS 'Breathe Deep, stay cool' campaign for her advice.
She says you need to be realistic about how you work as a couple but if you can tick all of these little steps off, then living together will be a breeze!
Then, and only then, power into action to get the move underway." So take our quiz to see if you truly are ready to move in together...
Dating after divorce can be a minefield for the midlife woman. The idea is that you should consciously decide how you want to proceed," which will in turn inform how you go about meeting people.5. Gadoua, who runs dating workshops for women, asks them to free-associate words that come to mind when they think of "dating." Not surprisingly, words like "awful" and "dreadful" come up.
Well the thing is, there's a difference between spending time together and living together - that grime around his toilet is going to be your toilet, oh yeah.
So what are the signs that you should go ahead and take the big plunge or just hold off for a little longer?
Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays -- not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups -- is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. “A divorced woman may feel very vulnerable at this stage, in part because she used to have a spouse to 'protect' her and now she has to go out into the world on her own,” says Diana Kirschner, Ph D, author of "Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love." But it's also tough, she adds, because once you’re on the dating scene you can feel like a teenager again, in that shaky, unconfident, not-sure-if-he'll-call sort of way. If you feel the same way, she offers this advice: "I suggest you try to reframe it as an adventure, or as an education," she says. Possibly the last time you dated there wasn’t even an Internet, much less Internet dating.
So how can you make post-divorce dating -- whether you’re looking for a good time or a good (relationship-minded) man -- less daunting? "Sit down and craft a statement of what, exactly, you’re after. "Dating can be a way to sharpen your social skills, too." And, of course, a way to get out of the house and have some fun! But if you were thinking that searching for companionship online is strictly for losers or perverts, forget it -- that’s as outmoded as dial-up. Once you "meet" someone online, it’s easy, says Dr.