Times are changing with the internet and the younger generation is picking up on western practices, so a few here and there may show some initiative.But by and large the culture here encourages women to be much more passive in regards to starting a relationship.
Anything beyond that and suddenly the older woman is a ‘Cougar’ or the younger man is a ‘MILF’-seeker.
Most especially with men, if the man is older than his girlfriend by 12 years he’s practically considered a deviant and the younger woman is considered a greedy ‘gold-digger’ or a naïve, foolish girl.
Meanwhile, young Filipinas see a chance for a better future for their children with a mature man of means.
With their beauty and devotion as their greatest asset, they tend to notice quickly when a new ‘kano’ moves into town frequenting perhaps the mall or local business where they work.
Such are the sort of preconceptions I’ve discovered as I brought up the subject of age difference as it relates to relationships here in the Philippines. As I mentioned before, there is a natural attraction between younger Filipina women seeking financial security or maturity from an older, foreign man.
Some people will even argue that such relationships just ‘cannot last’ because of several variables including changes in maturity over the years, different priorities and a lack of commonality in life experience. However, be prepared because here in the Philippines all those packaged preconceptions fall by the way-side and have resulted in many happy, sound and devoted long-term marriages between couples with as much as a 40-year age difference. Likewise, many retired foreign men are seeking a young, beautiful woman in their later years after either divorce or being widowed.Because it is nearly impossible for a foreigner to earn a living in the Philippines by just ‘getting a job’ locally, many of the ex-pats moving here do so relying upon their social security and pension or savings from their earlier career.They arrive with plenty of time on their hands, single and open to the possibility of a new chapter in their life.While Filipinas seem to move things along quickly when online, it is a much different dynamic in play when meeting a Filipina in person here in the Philippines.For one thing, the average Filipina raised with conservative, Catholic values is NOT forward at all in person.If you arrive and are waiting for a woman to just introduce herself and ‘ask you out’..