Little did she know, Elder had said the exact same thing to 69-year-old Roy Sanderson of nearby Foxboro.Taylor and Sanderson attended Elder's seniors speed date in Belleville in April 2004, where 10 men were introduced to 10 women over coffee and spent eight minutes with each one.
When Muriel Taylor's husband died in 2000, the Belleville woman wondered if she would ever find love again.
After all, in the southeastern Ontario city with a population of 46,000, opportunities to meet attractive men her age did not come along too often.
Taylor and Sanderson, who were planning to be married on June 18, are just one of Elder's success stories."Seventy per cent of everybody who attends a speed date does make a match, and of that group of 20, there is always one couple from that group who do go on to form a long-term relationship," Elder said, adding that overall, 60 per cent of Social Singles members end up forming a lasting relationship.
She is proud of the statistics - especially since she established her business only two years ago.
In 2002, Elder began to do market research and was astounded when she discovered data from Statistics Canada showing 60 per cent of 35- to 55-year- olds in Kingston and 40 per cent in Belleville were single."That told me there were a lot of single people out there," she said.
Surveys she developed and distributed showed that despite the large number of singles in the region, they were not making the effort to connect with others."It was because they didn't know how or they were frustrated and just gave up," Elder said.
For three years she ran a singles support group until she decided to return to school, obtain a business degree and join the corporate world where she worked her way up the ladder and became a manager at a large local corporation.
But the idea of creating a business out of her own lessons in putting her life back together after divorce kept niggling at her, especially because she had always been one of those people to whom others turned for practical, personal advice.
"They also didn't think there were any quality people out there."Without a backward glance, Elder took the leap, quit her job and launched Social Singles, beginning with a mass mailout to everybody she knew between Kingston and Belleville - about 250 people.