You get super awkward when it comes time to meet your S. You wait for your partner to make plans instead of making them yourself. They all think you don’t like them, because you’re shy. There are people who talk about pooping with their significant others?! One would say that shyness is not a very desirable character trait if all those self-help guides for coping with it taken into consideration, but we shouldn't forget that in some particular situations shyness is more than desirable.
You spend a lot of time convincing your boyfriend/girlfriend that you don’t hate his/her friends, you’re just awkward. You feel weird and nervous about PDA, or the opposite, fighting in public. You do everything you can to avoid doing something gross in front of your partner.
It takes you a REALLY long time to get comfortable with your partner…
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over four years now, and I’ve obviously gotten so comfortable with him that it’s a little ridiculous. My shyness drove him crazy in the beginning, so I totally get what you shy girls with new boyfriends/girlfriends are going through.
Here are 12 things all shy girls do when they’re in a new relationship: 1.
A new relationship is a super exciting time when you’re getting to know someone and really enjoying that nice honeymoon stage that is hard to find in a more long-term dating situation. Because if you’re a shy girl, like me, a new relationship is an exciting but nerve-wracking time when you’re trying to be really close with someone you still feel very awkward around. When your boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t around, you do whatever you can to avoid being near their parents. You very rarely speak up about how you feel or what you want. You take things pretty slow when it comes to hooking up.
I’ve written about my shy girl struggles before, and surprise surprise, they don’t just disappear when you start dating someone. And you get even more uncomfortable when you have to meet and be around their family. It’s not that you don’t like them, it’s just that they make you want to crawl out of your shaking skin and hide. You start using your partner as a crutch whenever you’re in social situations.
I haven’t been in many long-term relationships in my life, mainly because it’s hard for me to let my guard down and feel super comfortable with someone. Okay, so it might not be great to depend on your S.
Also, I’m attracted to outgoing people, and a lot of them don’t understand how to deal with shy girls.
When a girl wants to make a lasting impression on a boy there is no better way than to act shy.
Men have always liked that in women, even when it was obvious that it didn't come naturally to them.
If it wasn't like that we wouldn't have had a rich tradition of love poems written by the smartest men and dedicated to the coy objects of their love.